The problem of "sexuality ( / differencies in values and/or in skill levels) like breaking a pot"

 In school it was told tgat in some other culture far away long tine ago, sexuality and marriage had been compared to breaking a pot. I never understood such a comparison, or thought of it as a way of describing life with a spouce who lacks one's own wisdom, so one has to rebuild the pot, the cultural skills, if the spouce shares such values and considers such a high skill level a comfortable enough choice for oneself and for one's social relatilns' style etc. But often such goals are not shared, so sexuality is just breaking a pot. So love is an important part of getting dating abd marriage to work out well: giving the other enough room to live in, and oneself too, in wise ways with wisdom of lufe too. 

But generally,if people grow up in a certain environment, they often need to change to another kind of lufe choices in what comes to profession, values, skill levels, etc, for them to have strenght to behave well, bear their work well, enjoy it, enjoy lufe and respect the choices of others too. And so they typically have to move to another town, country or the like, to find an existing nice way of lufe that suits them, and which they would like their spouce too to support. Or otherwise they have tl break something to get free, break the pot of local culture's strenghts, etc, if they both stay where they have grown up in. 

"Finding a good place to luve in

 In the Finnish climate of four seasons, it is clear that one cannot live the summer in the same way as winter, since the weathers are so different. One needs to have a liking for tge variatiln of the weathers and seasons to enjoy such life. Typicamly people have a liking of some country's, climate's and type of district's wisdom of life in it's ways of living, and so thry tune toward such, and may forget to or do not want to tune themselves to their present living place's weather skills, cultute, wisdom of life etc. So they would most adapt to and like living in the district whose wisdom of life they admire. So they ought to move there right away. And likewise of family members: each to the climate, country and type of environment that they enjoy are tuned to, which culture's wisdom they value. That way they themselves would be much wiser, natural and happy. 

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